Loving in Darkness and Light

 Loving in Darkness and Light

“People are like Stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the Sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their True beauty is revealed only if there is Light from within.” -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Imagine that you discovered a Truth that if you open yourself to feeling the so-called “bad” or “negative” feelings when they authentically arise and you didn’t push them back down, ignore them, or deny that they exist, that you will be able to feel exponentially more LOVE, more Compassion, and more acceptance for yourself and others? When we live a life in Truth of who we are in darkness and in the Light, we automatically allow for others to do the same.

Consider what would happen if you choose to become more permeable and more vulnerable amidst the uncomfortable situations and experiences in your life…Surrender to those things that challenge you. Surrender to that which threatens to challenge your identity or who you “think” you are. Surrender to the fear and insecurity that exist deep within us all.

Bringing your awareness to fearful thoughts and feelings introduces the possibility of an alternative. Say Yes to it. Stay open. Stay vulnerable. Feel the discomfort and resistance you may have in allowing the things you don’t want to admit to yourself. Is that discomfort a result of our resistance? Be wrong. Let go of beliefs you hold onto tightly. Let go of the way you have seen yourself in the past. And then allow for the Freedom and the Liberation you can experience from releasing and unraveling the “stuff” you were holding onto. Sink into surrender, instead of resistance. How much of your energy is freed up by not resisting what “is”?

Imagine what your experience would be like if you consciously choose to feel the entire range of feelings instead of closing down your mind and protecting your heart when life shows you something you don’t like. What if you felt those uncomfortable feelings without resisting them? What if you felt that deep, burning passion without resisting it as well? You allowed them run though you without judging the emotions or judging yourself for feeling them.

Observe a small child and watch how they allow themselves to cry, to feel fear, to BE pure Joy and to fully express themselves with all their energy bursting from their pores!!! As adults, we are so in awe and envy of children because of the freedom that they show us in how they allow themselves to feel everything they need to feel, without getting attached or identified by the feeling itself and without fearing judgement. Children and animals are TRUE gifts for the reflection of Unconditional Love for Self and Others.

Because our mind perceives challenging experiences in our lives as being “negative” or “bad” in nature, we unconsciously protect ourselves from the unknown and what is on the other side of this darkness and fear that arise within us. We sometimes “push away” and “resist” those experiences that make us feel “imbalanced” or “out of control”. We don’t want to allow others (and ourselves) to feel that we hold the energy of fear or that we lack the ability to control ourselves or our reality. Our egos are there to protect and distract us from the Truth, so that we often do not show our darkness to others or even to ourselves. We allow our deep denial to take hold and run the show and we continue to unconsciously play out the same patterns in our lives that limit us from feeling Love and expressing our Greatness.

Examine the ways in which you do not let your True self be shown and felt. Most importantly, examine the ways in which you do not allow yourself to feel the depths of who you are. What are the situations or interactions that make you feel nervous in your stomach? What conversations are you constantly trying to avoid having because of the insecurity and fear that you have surrounding them? Who are the people in your life who you are most judge-mental of and then consider the ways in which you are similar? These practices can bring a greater awareness to how you are limiting your ability to fully express and accept who you are. When we can work on accepting more of ourselves, we simeltaneously work on accepting others as well.

We all can begin to notice when we tend to “protect” what we believe should be protected and hide away our fear of not being accepted by others. Our fear of not saying the “right” thing. Our fear of being alone. Our fear of exposing the unique and twisted way our mind works. Our fear of unleashing the depth of our Compassion and Love to another and not be received. We do all of this because we have not yet accepted LOVE into all of our Being.

We have to return to a place of knowingness that we are ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. We have to return to a place of knowingness that WE ARE LOVE in all of life’s dramas and happenings. As we all continue on our journey to Wholeness, we are faced with many challenges and lessons that have profound messages. The message isn’t always clear to us. We want complicated answers…we want to hear that we have done it all wrong. This is not the Truth. We are experiencing ourselves and others just how we need to at all times. We are perceiving the world around us in a way that serves our evolution and growth. As our awareness expands and opens, we are able to perceive everything just a bit differently…we begin to see the beauty in it all…in the contrasting colors of our magnificent creations.

When we come from that place of WHOLENESS without fear of judgement, we are FREE to express ourselves while releasing the worry of not being LOVED. Imagine that next time you come into a place where you feel fear or discomfort in your body or you feel your ego trying to act out to cover up your vulnerability. Just observe how you are judging yourself. Observe how you shift and change to be “accepted” by the Other. Observe how much energy you expend in fear of just BEING YOU RIGHT NOW. Bring your attention and awareness to how other people in your life are doing the same by not fully being in Truth with themselves. We can provide them with Compassion, Non-Judgement and an Open Heart, so that they are able to let go of their fears of judgement and non-acceptance and feel themselves break through to seeing and feeling LOVED.

We have the option to consciously choose to accept ourselves in our entirety, just as we are at this very moment. Only one who is in fear, judges another or judges him or herself.

We can know the TRUTH that we are accepted even when we don’t know the answers. We are loved even when we admit our so-called “mistakes”. We are embraced even when we don’t look like we think others want us to. We are Whole even when we have much more to learn.

We Accept, Love, and Embrace ourselves in all the moments of our life, whether it is in the darkness or the Light. And when we do this, we will know what is feels like to Truly Accept, Love, and Embrace all the Beings that surround us (who are an extension of US) and feel through the darkness TOGETHER and into the Light of LOVE AS ONE.


Allow the darkness and fear to rise to the surface.

Let your tears cleanse you.

Do not judge.

Stay Open to Give and Receive Love without condition.

Release the illusion that we are separate.

Embrace those around you to do the same.

Accept constant change and evolution within yourself.

Bask in the Blissful moments.

Namaste & Aloha.


3 thoughts on “Loving in Darkness and Light

  1. Thank you. The fear of losing control, specifically if someone else might see it, is a big one. I felt a nice melting to your use of the words “permeable” “vulnerable” and “surrender”. So good!

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