Loving in Darkness and Light

 Loving in Darkness and Light

“People are like Stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the Sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their True beauty is revealed only if there is Light from within.” -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Imagine that you discovered a Truth that if you open yourself to feeling the so-called “bad” or “negative” feelings when they authentically arise and you didn’t push them back down, ignore them, or deny that they exist, that you will be able to feel exponentially more LOVE, more Compassion, and more acceptance for yourself and others? When we live a life in Truth of who we are in darkness and in the Light, we automatically allow for others to do the same.

Consider what would happen if you choose to become more permeable and more vulnerable amidst the uncomfortable situations and experiences in your life…Surrender to those things that challenge you. Surrender to that which threatens to challenge your identity or who you “think” you are. Surrender to the fear and insecurity that exist deep within us all.

Bringing your awareness to fearful thoughts and feelings introduces the possibility of an alternative. Say Yes to it. Stay open. Stay vulnerable. Feel the discomfort and resistance you may have in allowing the things you don’t want to admit to yourself. Is that discomfort a result of our resistance? Be wrong. Let go of beliefs you hold onto tightly. Let go of the way you have seen yourself in the past. And then allow for the Freedom and the Liberation you can experience from releasing and unraveling the “stuff” you were holding onto. Sink into surrender, instead of resistance. How much of your energy is freed up by not resisting what “is”?

Imagine what your experience would be like if you consciously choose to feel the entire range of feelings instead of closing down your mind and protecting your heart when life shows you something you don’t like. What if you felt those uncomfortable feelings without resisting them? What if you felt that deep, burning passion without resisting it as well? You allowed them run though you without judging the emotions or judging yourself for feeling them.

Observe a small child and watch how they allow themselves to cry, to feel fear, to BE pure Joy and to fully express themselves with all their energy bursting from their pores!!! As adults, we are so in awe and envy of children because of the freedom that they show us in how they allow themselves to feel everything they need to feel, without getting attached or identified by the feeling itself and without fearing judgement. Children and animals are TRUE gifts for the reflection of Unconditional Love for Self and Others.

Because our mind perceives challenging experiences in our lives as being “negative” or “bad” in nature, we unconsciously protect ourselves from the unknown and what is on the other side of this darkness and fear that arise within us. We sometimes “push away” and “resist” those experiences that make us feel “imbalanced” or “out of control”. We don’t want to allow others (and ourselves) to feel that we hold the energy of fear or that we lack the ability to control ourselves or our reality. Our egos are there to protect and distract us from the Truth, so that we often do not show our darkness to others or even to ourselves. We allow our deep denial to take hold and run the show and we continue to unconsciously play out the same patterns in our lives that limit us from feeling Love and expressing our Greatness.

Examine the ways in which you do not let your True self be shown and felt. Most importantly, examine the ways in which you do not allow yourself to feel the depths of who you are. What are the situations or interactions that make you feel nervous in your stomach? What conversations are you constantly trying to avoid having because of the insecurity and fear that you have surrounding them? Who are the people in your life who you are most judge-mental of and then consider the ways in which you are similar? These practices can bring a greater awareness to how you are limiting your ability to fully express and accept who you are. When we can work on accepting more of ourselves, we simeltaneously work on accepting others as well.

We all can begin to notice when we tend to “protect” what we believe should be protected and hide away our fear of not being accepted by others. Our fear of not saying the “right” thing. Our fear of being alone. Our fear of exposing the unique and twisted way our mind works. Our fear of unleashing the depth of our Compassion and Love to another and not be received. We do all of this because we have not yet accepted LOVE into all of our Being.

We have to return to a place of knowingness that we are ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. We have to return to a place of knowingness that WE ARE LOVE in all of life’s dramas and happenings. As we all continue on our journey to Wholeness, we are faced with many challenges and lessons that have profound messages. The message isn’t always clear to us. We want complicated answers…we want to hear that we have done it all wrong. This is not the Truth. We are experiencing ourselves and others just how we need to at all times. We are perceiving the world around us in a way that serves our evolution and growth. As our awareness expands and opens, we are able to perceive everything just a bit differently…we begin to see the beauty in it all…in the contrasting colors of our magnificent creations.

When we come from that place of WHOLENESS without fear of judgement, we are FREE to express ourselves while releasing the worry of not being LOVED. Imagine that next time you come into a place where you feel fear or discomfort in your body or you feel your ego trying to act out to cover up your vulnerability. Just observe how you are judging yourself. Observe how you shift and change to be “accepted” by the Other. Observe how much energy you expend in fear of just BEING YOU RIGHT NOW. Bring your attention and awareness to how other people in your life are doing the same by not fully being in Truth with themselves. We can provide them with Compassion, Non-Judgement and an Open Heart, so that they are able to let go of their fears of judgement and non-acceptance and feel themselves break through to seeing and feeling LOVED.

We have the option to consciously choose to accept ourselves in our entirety, just as we are at this very moment. Only one who is in fear, judges another or judges him or herself.

We can know the TRUTH that we are accepted even when we don’t know the answers. We are loved even when we admit our so-called “mistakes”. We are embraced even when we don’t look like we think others want us to. We are Whole even when we have much more to learn.

We Accept, Love, and Embrace ourselves in all the moments of our life, whether it is in the darkness or the Light. And when we do this, we will know what is feels like to Truly Accept, Love, and Embrace all the Beings that surround us (who are an extension of US) and feel through the darkness TOGETHER and into the Light of LOVE AS ONE.


Allow the darkness and fear to rise to the surface.

Let your tears cleanse you.

Do not judge.

Stay Open to Give and Receive Love without condition.

Release the illusion that we are separate.

Embrace those around you to do the same.

Accept constant change and evolution within yourself.

Bask in the Blissful moments.

Namaste & Aloha.


Redefining Strength.

Redefining Strength.

Our current collective view of strength is one that is in deep need of transmutation and evolution. As the world around us evolves and changes form, we too need to continuously be open to examining our own self and allowing for new perspectives of how we see ourselves, who we want to become, and how we are expressing ourselves to the world.

Strength is often seen and felt as power or control of one’s self or one’s emotions. Our collective ideas of strength are convoluted by a wide range of images and expressions in the world. Men and women in powerful positions in society or politics exude (what many perceive as) “strength” to many, or the modern day heroes and heroines who show their strength through their physical bodies and powerful outward manifestations.

We collectively believe that being strong is denying our inner most desires and goals in order to do what we are “supposed to do” or to do “the right thing”. We are still programmed to believe that someone is strong when they are committed to a relationship “no matter what”, while continuing to not honor themselves. We often see strength in others that are “self sacrificing” and do not recognize their own needs. In order to stay in a place of strength, we often don’t ask for the help or assistance we may need when we are feeling overwhelmed. We complement others who choose to show their “strength” by appearing centered and strong in the face of incredible tragedy and pain. Is this really True strength?

These distorted and misunderstood acts and expressions of strength are often confusing when we feel into them. We perpetuate the belief about what it means to be strong by mimicking others around us who do the same. When we bring our awareness to this, we can feel that these ways of “being strong” are not in alignment with our deepest desires of wanting to be our most authentic self. Our desire to really know ourselves and feel accepted and embraced for who we are. We have lost the ability to know who we truly are and to have deep connection with our own self. We have sacrificed our self Love as a result of the fear to reveal ourselves and be viewed as ‘weak’. We have collectively become so out of touch with showing our True selves to the outside world. We are often living in denial of our True nature…that which is LOVE… the divinity that shows itself in all of our True expressions.

Strength is being vulnerable. Allowing our heart to be so open that it can feel the spectrum of Bliss and sadness at any given moment. It is showing our willingness to change and our non-attachment to who we “think” we are. Strength is taking responsibility for our actions and our words. Being honest with ourselves and our loved ones about the way we truly feel. Being in the unknown and trusting that our life path will unfold as it should. Strength is loving our self in the moments of what is seemingly never-ending darkness. Honoring our self enough to focus our awareness on what what we truly desire. It is forgiveness and compassion for ourselves. Strength is following our heart.

So how do we choose to see strength in our partners, our children, our parents, our friends and most importantly ourselves? And can we see the strength in others when they expose to us their weakness? We can consciously choose to change this old perspective of what it means to be strong (and to show strength) by first examining within ourselves what our own deep-seated beliefs are about strength. When we are still and allow the distractions around us to fade away for a few moments in our day, we can ask ourselves how we really feel about our outward expression of strength. How do I show the world that I am strong? Most importantly, is this truly in alignment with who I am and who I want to be? What can I do to change this false representation of myself so that I am honest with others and myself?

Hiding just beneath this false outward expression of strength is often our deepest fear. Fear of breaking open the illusion that we are not really as we appear to the outside world, or even to ourselves. We may lack the understanding of all that we encompass as individuals because we are so much more than what we are able to see on the surface. We all contain the depths of the Universe within ourselves: The dark and the light. The good and the bad. The feminine and the masculine. The stillness and the movement. The joy and the sadness. The opening and the closing. The strength and the weakness. Can we Love all of this?

Love holds the True power to heal. And when we embrace all of ourselves, we radiate healing and Love. We must take every opportunity in life to feel within ourselves, to reconnect with Love, to Love ourselves, because the Ultimate Strength lies within loving and honoring all parts of our Self. It is in the continuous space of vulnerability that we are open to Love. So why then are we so afraid to BE and FEEL the magical strength of Love? Because Love is the unknown. The unseen. The indescribable. The Infinite. The Divine. Love holds the Universal Wisdom. And if we are Love, we are ultimately all of these things. Let’s collectively redefine strength by opening our hearts and letting Love flow in and out. Let’s all feel the power, strength and freedom that comes with expressing and honoring everything that we are.